Dealing With (Stupid, Annoying, Mean, etc) People

It looks like I haven’t posted anything on this blog in three weeks… Boy, am I lazy! But I’m back, and better (actually more tired) than ever! One of the reasons for my absence has been my high school Tennis season, which requires regular travel and 2-3 hours of practice a day, 6-7 days a week. While I train year round, the expectation my school sets takes it to a whole new level. And to top it all off, my coach is a complete jerk!

He gives me a lot of advice that makes no sense, yells at me all the time, and, in my opinion, significantly depresses the potential of our team. Unfortunately, he’s not going anywhere anytime soon, since he’s not breaking any actual rules. And when he yells at me, I get a strong urge to give him a piece of my mind! I could easily tear him apart and escalate the situation to it’s breaking point.

But that isn’t the smartest thing to do. You see, when a young man disrespects an authority figure, things end badly for the former, more often than not. So instead, I suck it up and deal with the situation.

When you are dealing with mean people, you begin to look at things through an emotional lens, and start making irrational decisions. You also think that situations and events are worse than they really are. After a confrontation, instead of acting quickly and rashly, take 24 hours to cool down and look at the situation logically. If you are patient, you will likely find solutions to the problem that you didn’t see in your initial haze of anger.

If you have to deal with someone in the long term, learn to work with that person instead of making your relationship with them worse. Be respectful. Find easy things you can do to make them happy. If they’re your boss, do what they tell you to do, or at least make it look like you are doing what you’re supposed to. As the famous saying goes, keep your friends close and your enemies closer!

Have you ever had to deal with someone you couldn’t stand? If so, how did you handle it?

-Andrew

 

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Get a Job! Not just any Job, though

Exams may be over, but that doesn’t mean I can take a break! There’s nothing like getting up early on a Sunday to clean Tennis courts in 20-degree Fahrenheit weather. Luckily, I get to spend part two of my Sunday shift sitting at a nice, cozy desk writing this article.

And you know what makes this gig even sweeter? I’m getting paid to sit at this desk and do nothing for 75% of the time! Sure, I need to help customers for a few minutes whenever they come into the shop, but outside of that, I’m making money while growing this blog. It’s very time efficient, and if you can find a job where you get paid to sit around, I would highly recommend it.

However, a job like mine is hard to come by. That’s why I am going to tell you about my second job! Outside of working on Sundays, I also teach Tennis to young players at a rate of $20 an hour, or about 2.5x the minimum wage here in Florida. While it’s not possible to book a full 40-hour workweek, I can control my schedule and work when I want to, and make a heck of a lot more than most kids my age.

“But Andrew, I have no idea how to play Tennis, or any sport for that matter! Will I be poor for eternity, or at least until I get a college degree?”.

Well, you don’t necessarily need to teach a sport if you want to have a great first job. Do you have a subject in school that you are good at, or at least have a B in? You should consider tutoring middle or elementary school students in that subject! With professional tutors ranging from $60 an hour to several hundred dollars an hour in places like NYC and San Francisco, $20 an hour (or even more in some cases) will seem like a steal to most parents!

Other ideal jobs include anything that involves sitting at a desk, whether as a clerk or a library attendant, that allow you to work on other projects, such as your homework, when you are not helping a customer or maintaining the facility. You want to find a job that puts you at a desk or reception area just so your employer has someone there, not involving any lengthy periods of work.

Many teens can easily get a job working at a local store or restaurant stocking shelves or cleaning dishes, and while I do believe there is value in menial labor, it’s not very efficient to take such a time consuming job when you already have 40-50 hours of school work! I implore you to seek out more time efficient ways to make money, and leave a comment if you have any other ideas on how to make money on a tight schedule.

-Andrew